You wont need to change her diet all that much, just try and get it as close to the 2:1 scale as you can. Heres some already worked out for you to help.
http://www.sugar-glider.co.uk/smf/index.php/topic,2165.0.htmlCut out the Leadbeaters though. its not needed and not a very good diet. And the locusts should be fed as a treat more then an actual food source as they have a poor nutritional value.
I havnt really heard of Zolcal but im assuming thats a calcium supplement? I wouldnt use it only because too much calcium can be just as bad as too less, and if you are getting the 2:1 diet correct, they should be getting plenty calcium from their food and the supplements from Shropshire Exotics.
I wouldnt stop the bonding process altogether, but if she is new and doesnt trust you yet, i would back off slightly. Just offer her locusts gently, not forcing her to come out or be picked up if she doesnt trust you yet, just feed her the locusts as treats and she will more then likely end up coming onto you herself.
Im not sure if the male will attack the female or not. Jen or Marie or Mark may be better with that one.